They have the shameless ability to say one thing to the target then even within seconds contradict this to a superior and leave you in the lurch if it will make them appear better in that persons eyes. If you've naively taken the heat in any way, you won't be supported or thanked.
The bully chooses to deceive and lie, it has become a habit, but it is a choice. They are unwilling to accept responsibility for the consequences of their actions, and will lie to avoid acting like a responsible adult.
They are unable to "take it on the chin"and will avoid accountability even when paying lip service to superiors.
|Serial bullies pretend to be golden|
but they manipulate events to
suit their own ends.
They will use an array of strategies to avoid accountability, possibly claiming that the 'disagreement' was simply an insignificant, trivial inability to see eye to eye, a mere personality clash, of which they are innocent in all ways. However, when one person lies and discredits another, it is bullying, not a misunderstanding or personality clash. Bullying is the persistent, malicious undermining and vile behaviour of a person unable to hold a mature, rational discussion. The bully may hold resentments for years, and refer to wrongdoings against them ad-nauseum. They have such a desperate need to play the victim and avoid accountability that they have difficulty letting go when they fear they have been exposed.
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There are many outstanding resources on line. A couple I find useful are Bullying. No way! an Australian resource for teachers and students, and a UK site Bully On Line. This is in no way an exhaustive list, and each country will no doubt have equally good or more relevant websites.
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